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“We keep arguing about the same things!” Part 2

bench-couple-fight-984949.jpgWhen was the last time yo got into an argument with someone and it felt like you were going around in circles?  You were saying exactly what they did wrong and they. just. don’t. listen.!  Frustration builds, tempers flair, and yet another argument.  This isn’t what anyone really wants, but how can you change this?
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“We keep arguing about the same things!” Part 3

bench-couple-fight-984949.jpgWhen was the last time yo got into an argument with someone and it felt like you were going around in circles?  They kept saying the same wrong thing over. and over. and over.!  Frustration builds, tempers flair, and yet another argument.  This isn’t what anyone really wants, but how can you change this?
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“We keep arguing about the same things!” Part 1

bench-couple-fight-984949.jpgWhen was the last time yo got into an argument with someone and it felt like you were going around in circles?  You were saying exactly what they did wrong and they. just. don’t. listen.!  Frustration builds, tempers flair, and yet another argument.  This isn’t what anyone really wants, but how can you change this?
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I might forgive, but I can’t forget!

adult-alone-anxious-568027Did someone ever do something to you that hurt so much you thought the relationship was over? Maybe the relationship didn’t end, but you were still hurt you and angry! They need to pay for what they did! And then a friend tells you to “forgive and forget”. Yeah, right! You might be able to forgive them… eventually, but you can’t possibly forget what they did. I mean, can you?  Is it even healthy to forget how someone wronged you?  What about  justice?

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Stress is Good (No, Really!)

adult-alone-black-and-white-551588If I asked most people the last time they didn’t feel stressed, they would stare blankly at me.  Or possibly laugh.  We all know what stress is and what causes it:  we hit the snooze button and end up running 20 minutes late, the kids arguing like gremlins in the back seat, or the boss who hates every single thing every person does.

Stress has become a way of life for most people.  Without getting too technical, stress is any change from “balance”.  When things are balanced, we experience a feeling of calm–unbalanced times create chaos.

But is it okay to not always feel calm and balanced?  Well, yes and no.

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Rebuilding Trust

ancient-arch-architecture-983713Did you ever do something you thought a family member or partner wouldn’t mind, only to find out the opposite–you violated their trust and now the relationship is in ruins?  Or maybe it’s not in ruins, but there’s definitely damage done–whether you meant it or not?  Unfortunately, this happens a lot, especially when there is a history of disappointments in the relationship.

Trust is crucial to relationships. Without trust relationships quickly fall apart.

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What is Anxiety?

Did you ever have that pit-in-your-stomach feeling right before a big meeting or important test?  You probably have, because we all get anxious at times.  However, sometimes the anxiety starts to get out of control.  We start staying up later and later because our thoughts won’t slow down.  We start finding more and more to worry and be anxious about!  We even start getting anxious because we are anxious!

Anxiety really can become a debilitating vicious circle.  In our fast-paced, perfection-seeking culture, there never seems to be an end of things to be anxious about.  However,  Read More

How Does Counseling Help?

Many times when I meet with someone for the first time, they explain what brings them to counseling and then ask how counseling can help.  I think that is a fantastic question!

If you have not done so already, please read my blog post on Mountains for some background info on my view of the counseling relationship.

Similar to the Sherpa keeping his client safe, I view the counseling relationship as a safe

space for the client to share what is urgent, pressing, important, etc. to a trained and objective person.  Sometimes, simply being able to express a deep desire, hurt, or pain to someone that is trusted is enough to find relief.  Sometimes – like a Sherpa pointing out

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What is Christian Counseling?

Way back before I started graduate school to be a counselor, when I first heard the term “Christian Counseling” I immediate pictured two people sitting in a room reading a Bible and praying.  I thought that was a Bible study and I wanted nothing to do with that.  If I wanted to lead a Bible study, I would do that instead of become a counselor.

I then graduated from graduate school and started working with Christian clients who valued their faith like I do.  Like any good counselor, I was open to sessions discussing religious beliefs because our beliefs shape our view of the world and our experiences.  I

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Is Online Counseling Right for Me?

Did you ever want to talk with a family member, good friend or colleague and, for whatever reason, calling or texting wasn’t a good option?  Sometimes, using Skype or Facetime is the best option – especially when you want to see the other person.

Online counseling (also called telemental health, telehealth, remote counseling, etc.) works in a similar way.  Sometimes it isn’t practical or preferred to go to a counselor’s

office, but it is still important to meet with a counselor.  You could call and talk to the

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Why Mountains?

I have been asked several times “Why do you have mountains on your website?  Couldn’t that look like a person’s problems are too big and unchanging – like a mountain?”.  Well, it could look like that, and I am sure many people feel that their problems are just like a mountain, but that doesn’t have to mean they have to stay that way.

I would like you to think with me for a moment.  How many steps does it take to get to

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